A lot of the time I get told that I am overly dramatic when it comes to the topic of my adoption. I mean I guess that could be true considering the fact that I’m tearing up over here as I write this little post. Now, I understand that those who have not experienced adoption or foster care may not exactly understand the feelings in which some of us adopted/foster children face. And that is 100% okay. Of course we are not going to be able to understand everything fully unless we have actually been in the situation.However, I don’t necessarily believe that it takes a genius to sort of see how that may impact someone especially if they have explained their feelings to them.
For example, today I told someone over text message that I was adopted and their reaction was
“Looooooool really? So u pretty much never met ur real parents :’D growing up that must’ve sucked”.
Okay, before you start thinking “ummmmm that was it? I don’t see anything wrong with that statement. I just want to say that I do and I’m sorry but to me the statement was very insensitive. It is almost like a reminder of how much it sucks to know that I am not blood related to ANYONE on either side of my family and unfortunately in my case, I will never know who my biological parents are. Information about my birth parents/history in general were not allowed to be released to my parents. Yes, I said my parents because my parents are my parents and I love them more than anything and anyone in this world. I’m not even sure what the term “real parents” was supposed to mean.
Growing up, I wasn’t all that emotional about my adoption at all to be honest. It was only when I went to my home country for the first time at the age of 12. Before leaving, my parents had asked me if I wanted to see the hospital I was adopted from and I said yes without having to think twice. I was beyond excited until the night before actually going there. It all hit me at once and I balled my eyes out begging them not to take me there. I don’t regret that decision, I haven’t been back to my home country since but I do want to go back! I had an amazing time there. It’s funny because a lot of my family and family friends were really surprised to hear that I had a good time let alone enjoyed being there in general.
Anyway, I’m digressing from the main topic. I had mixed feelings about this and I am still not entirely sure about how I feel but what I do know.. is that I love my parents. They are my world and the greatest gift God could ever give me. I have to keep reminding myself that blood does NOT define who your family is. I am 100% without a doubt one of the lucky ones and I would like everyone to know that I am extremely grateful. There will always be someone who will try to bring you down or will just always have something to say. Screw those people! We only have one life, don’t waste time on those who waste their own time trying to ruin yours. Time is extremely valuable so don’t forget that!!!!
I also want to apologize for not posting anything in such a long while. Things have been pretty crazy these past few months and a lot has changed in my life.
My grandfather passed away and I was right there when it happened. With the exception of my parents, I was closer to him than I am to anyone else on either side of my family. He meant the world to me. My grandmother and him visited us every single summer as I was growing up and we went to them every Christmas. I miss him so much. Ever since I was a little girl he was always on my side. He was always there for me and he ALWAYS made sure he stayed apart of my life. When I was a little girl, he taught me how to play chess and cards and tennis!
..Something that always keeps me smiling is remembering how no matter where we were, we would watch this one movie that no one else in the family liked. It became a tradition and lasted til the very last.
R.I.P. Nanaiaya ❤
His last words to me were “I love you”. And I will never, ever forget that.
So for the last few days, I have been living by these wise words and thought I might share them..
This is your life. Do what you love, and do it often. If you don’t like something, change it. If you don’t like your job, quit. If you don’t have enough time, stop watching TV. If you are looking for the love of your life, stop; they will be waiting for you when you start doing things you love. Stop over analyzing, life is simple. All emotions are beautiful. When you eat, appreciate every last bite. Open your mind, arms and heart to new things and people, we are united in our differences. Ask the next person you see what their passion is, and share your inspiring dream with them. Travel often; getting lost will help you find yourself. Some opportunities only come once, seize them. Life is about the people you meet, and the things you create with them so go out and start creating. Live your dream and share your passion. Life is short. ❤
“The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.”
I can honestly say that it’s been one hell of a year.. But it was one hell of an amazing year!
Tomorrow, I will be officially done my first year of university and moved out of residence. I can’t believe how quickly time has gone by. I am so thankful for having the opportunity to meet the people I met and I am so blessed to be going to such an amazing school let alone school at all. I am very fortunate and lucky. It was an experience of a life time and I have absolutely no regrets whatsoever. Regardless of any drama, the year seriously couldn’t have been ANY better than it was.
“When I was 5 years old, my parents always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down “happy”. They told me that I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them that they didn’t understand life.”
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